戒除成瘾在社会上是不可接受的Breaking Addiction Is Socially Unacceptable
Naval：如果你经常喝酒或服用某种药物，试试下面这个思想实验。
你最期待哪些场合？我敢打赌，都是那些你能喝酒或用药的场合。你期待晚餐时间、即将到来的聚会，或是和朋友一起去酒吧串场。
想看清这有多虚假，就下定决心下次出门时不喝酒也不用药。现在问问自己，你对那个场合还有多少期待。你会发现：一点都不期待。
这就成了一个难题。这些人为快乐的来源最终会让我变得麻木，失去它们时会让我痛苦，还会导致成瘾。但如果我放弃它们，我同样会痛苦，因为我不再能和朋友们社交。我不会出门，也不会玩得开心。
戒除成瘾需要新的生活方式
戒除成瘾非常困难，因为你既要戒掉生理上的成瘾，也必须改变自己的生活方式。你必须切换到一种没有那种物质也能幸福的生活方式。
如果我为了社交而喝酒，并且经常这样做，我会发现自己和那些原本不会相处的人混在一起。清醒时，我无法忍受这些人、我们谈论的话题，或是我们去的地方。我只有喝醉了才能做到。
成瘾维系着虚假的关系和虚假的活动
这些虚假的关系和虚假的活动是靠酒精维系在一起的。如果我戒酒，就必须更换朋友，寻找新的事情做。这很难，而且在社会上也难以被接受。
我早就意识到，期待周末和假期是个问题。首先，它夺走了日常生活的乐趣，因为你活在未来，其余的时间都在受苦。其次，你接受了一种把大部分时间都用来受苦的生活方式。
Naval: If you drink alcohol or take some kind of drug regularly, try the following thought experiment.
What events do you most look forward to? I’ll bet they’re the ones where you get to drink or do drugs. You look forward to dinnertime, an upcoming party or bar-hopping with friends.
To see how artificial it is, resolve to abstain from drinking or doing drugs the next time you go out. Now ask yourself how much you’re looking forward to that event. You’ll find: not at all.
This creates a conundrum. These sources of artificial pleasure eventually will desensitize me, bring misery when they’re gone and lead to addiction. But if I give them up, I’ll also be miserable because I’ll no longer socialize with my friends. I won’t go out, and I won’t have fun.
Breaking addiction requires a new lifestyle
Breaking addiction is very hard, because you have to break the physical addiction and you also have to change your lifestyle. You have to switch to a lifestyle in which you can be happy without that substance.
If I drink to be social and do that enough, I’ll find myself hanging out with people I wouldn’t spend time with otherwise. When I’m sober, I can’t tolerate these people, the topics we discuss or the venues we visit. I can only do it drunk.
Addiction holds together fake relationships and fake activities
These fake relationships and fake activities are held together by alcohol. If I stop drinking, I have to replace my friends and find new things to do. This is difficult and socially unacceptable.
I realized a while ago that it’s a problem to look forward to weekends and holidays. First, it takes the joy out of the everyday, because you’re living in the future and suffering the rest of time. Second, you have accepted a way of life in which most of your time is spent suffering.